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HOW TO SET REALISTIC GOALS AND HOW TO ACHIEVE THEM
Goals play an important role in our
personal development and motivate us to work hard towards defining our own
success. Setting goals requires discipline, time and a desire to make personal
change. To achieve your goal(s) it needs to be realistic as that will help you
understand exactly what the goal is about and why that goal feels important to
To help you set realistic goals, I will
use weight loss as an example to understand the importance of setting realistic
– Be REAL
Before setting a goal you have to be
REAL and honest with yourself. If your goal is to lose weight or develop an
effective fitness routine, ask yourself these questions. Why do I want to lose
weight? Why is this goal important to me? What actions am I willing to take to
lose that weight? Will joining the gym be necessary to help me lose weight?
What are my favourite exercises that will help me achieve my goal? How is my
diet going to contribute towards losing the weight? How much weight do I want
to lose every month to achieve my ultimate goal? Why do I want to have a
fitness routine? All these questions are necessary because they help you be
REAL with yourself and train your mind to set goals that are realistic and
discipline you to actually work hard towards achieving your goal. Remember this
quote when setting your goal(s) “You’ll never change your life until you change something
you do daily. The secret of your success is found on your daily routine”.
E – EXPECT positive results
your own success plays a huge role in expecting positive results. No matter
what you do expect the results to be positive and focus on the positive. If you
approach your goal with a negative mind-set, you will feel miserable and
unmotivated to work hard towards achieving it. In terms of weight loss, if you
want to be a size 30, visualise yourself being like that. Imagine yourself
walking around the beach in a sexy bikini and in no time you will be walking in
that bikini and owning it. Always be positive,
patient and persistent.
A – ACCEPT that you are not perfect
to achieve a goal from a perfectionist perspective will not do you any good. As
humans we are not perfect and the sooner we accept that the better. When it
comes to achieving your goal(s) actions count more even if they are not perfect. This basically
means turning your goal into a habit. Fitness is a habit. Turn going to the gym a
habit. Turn eating healthy into a habit and it will eventually become much
easier for you to achieve without turning into a perfectionist because it is now part of your daily lifestyle and mistakes are acceptable.
Habits and achieving goals go hand-in-hand – it is much easier to achieve a
goal that is part of your daily habit.
L – LOVE yourself
is important in anything you do. If you don’t love yourself when you are
overweight trust me when I say you won’t love yourself when you are slim. Feel
comfortable in your own skin no matter your body size and that will motivate
you to work harder to achieve your desired body size. Vincent van Gogh once
said “What is done is love, is done well”.
– It seems IMPOSSIBLE until it is done
Achieving your desired fitness regime
always seems impossible until it becomes a routine/habit. When I decided that I
wanted to be fit, it was very difficult and I always looked for an excuse not
to go to the gym or for a morning jog (oh it’s cold today therefore I can’t go
to the gym, I had a busy day at work and all I want to is watch TV instead of going to the gym etc.). It
was excuse after excuse because it seemed impossible and I didn’t visualise the
positive results. Stop with the excuses and start taking action.
When I stopped with the excuses and started learning what exercises I like (I'm personally a fan of cycling), my eyes where all of a sudden open. Fitness became a habit. Reach
that level and you will realise that nothing is impossible if you set your mind
– STICK to your goal
Sticking to your goal takes discipline.
Focus will make you stick to your goal. Having a certain direction will
motivate you to stick to your goal. Discipline, Focus and Direction will make
achieving your goal much easier. Once those three elements are imprinted in
mind you will be a GOAL DIGGER.
–Give it TIME
Achieving your goal takes time. If you
rush into achieving your goal without getting the results you desire that will
lead to frustration. And when your goal frustrates you, you will sub-consciously
begin pulling away from it, without realising it and soon you will begin asking
yourself, why haven’t I achieved this goal? What went wrong? Give it time. Be patient and
persistent at the same time.
– IMPROVE your bad habits
It takes 21 days to break a bad habit.
Honestly, bad habits stand in the way of setting goals and taking consistent
actions to achieve them. To break your bad habits, firstly you need to identify
that habit and acknowledge it. Only through acknowledgement will you be able to
find effective strategies to break that bad habit. Once you get rid of a bad
habit replace it with a good habit. For example, if your aim is to start eating
healthy, identify the type of junk food that is making it hard for you to start
eating healthy. Replace ice-cream with plain yoghurt with pieces of fresh
fruit, replace eating McDonald’s with a home-made salad. Replace the bad with
the good until the good becomes a new habit. Its not easy but its worth it.
– CHALLENGE yourself
Always challenge yourself to go beyond
your limits. In life you compete with yourself and no one else. Challenge
yourself (not your friend) to be better than you were yesterday. Remember this
when you want to challenge yourself:
you don’t challenge yourself, you will never realise what you can become
let yourself get too comfortable in your current situation. Seek challenges,
push yourself and ignore what others think
that there is a difference between who you are and who you want to be
yourself because no one will do it for you. No one will help you work towards achieving
your goals except for you
bigger the challenge - the bigger the opportunity
To finalise everything, remember to make
a plan and take action. If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan not the goal.
Consistency will get you far in life. A girl boss works hard and never quits
until it is done.
tend to be very stressful for anyone but that is the next step to getting your
dream job to help you build your career. Here
are my 8 tips to passing an interview: Be
early: arrive for an interview 15 minutes early. In any field of work,
punctuality is an important aspect in a potential candidate, as that is seen as
a sign of reliability.Dress
appropriately: this doesn’t mean you have to wear a 3-piece suit, however,
dress presentable. Wear neutral colors, ensure your clothes are clean, keep
jewelry to a minimum, smell good and ensure that your outfit is comfortable as
that will boost your confidence.Ensure
that your breath does not have a foul smell.Do
research about the company, know what they are all about so that you are
prepared for questions related to the company. Interviewers ask questions such
as, "What do you understand about our company?" because they are
testing whether or not you are interested in being part of the company.In
general, be prepared for a…